Pendulum Parenting: A History

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Pendulum Parenting

Pendulum Parenting Each generation wants to do better, and swings to the other side. A HISTORY OF PARENTING

Disregard the Child

Ancient world - 1600's Disregard the Child “Fathers must not be lighthearted with daughters. Mothers must not smile with sons.” Greek 1st century famulus in Latin means “servant” Buddha named his son “Burden” = Rahula And left one week later 1600's Puritans believed children born corrupt Giovanni Italy, 1400's How to Recognize the Newborn Worth Rearing SORANUS 20-40% of infants were abandoned in Ancient Rome

Free the Child

1690's - 1800's Free the Child Tabula Rasa = Blank Slate The supreme good was freedom -Enlightenment Era Abandoned his 5 children BACKLASH AGAINST: religious control Rousseau “Natural” Parenting 1763 Locke 1693

Condition the Child

1800's - 1930's Condition the Child Little Albert Fears Santa Claus Behaviorism “Mother love is a dangerous instrument.” … “Never hug and kiss them. Never let them sit in your lap.” Less kisses = better Playing discouraged Holt 1894 Watson 1928 BACKLASH AGAINST: FREEDOM

Center the Child

1930's - 1970's Center the Child “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” Attachment Theory Continuum Concept Babies Are Human Beings ALDRICH 1938 Spock 1946 Bowlby 1961 Liedloff 1979 BACKLASH AGAINST: toughness

Discipline the Child

1960's - 1980's Discipline the Child “Citizenship begins at birth.” “Never strike a child except in anger.” “Children got Spocked, when they should have got spanked.” “The ‘pow-wow’ type of spanking: your ‘POW’ followed by his ‘WOW’! Sackett 1962 Dodson 1970 BACKLASH AGAINST: SOFTNESS

Coddle the Child

1980's - Present Coddle the Child Self-Esteem Parenting Gentle Parenting Trophy Generation BACKLASH AGAINST: PUNISHMENT

Paradigm Parenting

Paradigm Parenting Rooted in The Four Pillars Timeless. Not Trendy. BALANCE VILLAGE CONNECTION AUTHORITY

Pendulum Parenting: A History

Pendulum Parenting: A History. Timeless. Not Trendy. Disregard the Child: Ancient world–1600s, we began. Free the Child: 1690s–1800s, backlash against religious control. Condition the Child: 1800s–1930s, backlash against freedom. Center the Child: 1930s–1970s, backlash against toughness. Discipline the Child: 1960s–1980s, backlash against softness. Coddle the Child: 1980s–Present, backlash against punishment. Paradigm Parenting. Rooted in The Four Pillars: Connection, Authority, Balance, Village.

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